Updated: Sep 12, 2019
It is inevitable that at some point we are going to feel stressed and over wrought, feeling as if life is pushing and pulling us so that we feel out of control, tasks and goals can seem like mountains to climb.
At times we can often spend a lot of time worrying about the future, anticipating what may happen (often focussing on what will go wrong!) and we may also think about the past, regretting what has gone and would could have been.
Many of these challenges we face come from our own thoughts and that incessant critical internal voice.
So how can we change these negative thoughts into positive ones?
Power of the pause
Victor Frankl wrote, In between stimulus and response is a space and in that space, lies our growth and our freedom. The key to taking back that control is to access this space. Take a pause, take in a deep breath, feel your feet rooted firmly to the floor, grounded and solid. The space between stimulus and response is not an exclusive club, we all have access to it. Practice the pause every day and you start to realise you can step into that space whenever you need to.
Cut it up into smaller pieces
Tasks don’t look so overwhelming when we cut them up into bite size pieces. Can you visualize what that outcome looks like and feels like and then take small steps backwards, listing each step along the way that got you to that outcome. What is that first small step you can take right now towards that outcome?
Often we forget to celebrate those small steps forward. I remember learning to swim, the swimming instructor used to hit us on the head with the pool hook when we got to the other side and yelled at us to do it again. There was no wonder most of us would flounder mid pool! What a difference it would have made if we were encouraged and celebrated for making it over to the other side. Celebrate those steps, pat yourself on the back, surround yourself with people that cheer you on and gradually life becomes that bit easier.
Three little steps that can help you to take back control so that you feel like you are in the driving seat again. Give them a go, utilize them each day and let me know how you get on!